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Monday, March 15 2010

Six Pronouns


Entering relationship means entering the realm of mystery.  We are mysterious, paradoxical beings - mysterious to ourselves, at times, and mysterious, for sure, to each other.  Part of the paradox is that, at the core of our nature, we are unique (but not separate) and one (but not the same). 


From my vantage point on intimate relationship, it's possible that all of the following statements are true:  We are one.  We are two.  We are three. 


Reflecting this notion is a short poem I wrote a dozen years ago.



Trinitarian Addition


In Oneness


And Oneness

In Two-ness


Make Three-ness

In Oneness


In Tunas

And Everything Else.



After putting out the recent wisdom, Three Pronouns of Relationship, I received feedback from a couple of you (thank you Cyndi and Betsy) emphasizing the cosmic nature of relationship.  As I opened more deeply during a recent meditation to that level of reality, the thought came:  how about six pronouns?  – i, you, we, I, YOU, WE. 


The lower case pronouns refer to that psychological level of reality, where we encounter uniqueness and human goofiness.  Gary Zukav calls this the "level of personality".  The capital letters refer to the cosmic or spiritual level of reality, where all is one and all is love – the "level of soul".  We relate to each other at both levels.  One of them, however, is more complicated than the other.


As I think about the Softening to Love retreat I'm offering later this spring, I'm excited to explore balance and integration in these levels of relationship – the psychological and the spiritual.  I also look forward to building balance into the three main activities of the retreat - conversation, guided experience and quiet reflection.   


Please check out the updated description of the retreat at my website:   As always, your feedback is much appreciated.


Who knows, as pronouns proliferate, maybe next week there'll be nine.



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