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Saturday, June 28 2014

Little Self, Large Self

 

Little self chatters – constantly

Large self observes - quietly

 

Little self looks for danger

Large self knows we’re safe

 

Little self stories dramatic

Large self gently smiles

 

Little self thinks s/he’s alone

Large self knows we’re all one

 

Little self agitates for attention

Large self patiently presides

 

Little self loves and loathes

Large self only loves.

 

Little self – young and growing

Large self – ancient and ageless

 

Both inner companions

Are real versions of us

 

Can’t rid either - ever

Can choose either – anytime

 

The more we choose one

The easier that choice becomes.

 

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Tuesday, June 17 2014

 

 

All’s Well

 

Beleaguered?

Caught up

In hurricane’s

Howl?

 

Remember

Calm center

Where you

Are enough.

 

All’s well

In All’s well.

 

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Monday, June 09 2014

Flawed Abundance

 

       The universe is messy.  Galaxies, stars, planets and life on earth came about through chaotic processes with an underlying order we are still trying to comprehend.  That messiness permeates our love lives, our friendships and our relationship to self.  Life unfolds in mysterious ways, often departing from the pretty picture we envision.

 

       Mark Nepo speaks of flawed abundance.  His words resonate with my experience – and maybe yours.

 

 

 

       “ … everything we need or want is waiting inside each day … right before us in flawed abundance …

 

       “ … nothing is clean or perfect, and nothing unfolds as planned.  For the Universe is vital, not perfect.  Full of endless seeds attempting to be one thing, colliding with another, and becoming a third.  Loves, dreams, difficulties, peace of mind – all of who we are unfolds this way beyond our willful wanting. 

 

       “ … the King James phrase ‘be you perfect’ really means ‘be you all-embracing …

 

       “Much of our unhappiness comes from insisting on what we want as the only path to contentment.  Often, beyond what we want is what we need, waiting in the abundance of a reality that has more than enough to keep us vital and alive. …

 

       “One of the more difficult paradoxes to accept is that this abundance of gifts is always quietly present and it is we who drift in and out of seeing it.  The one recurring doorway to this vitality is our simple participation in life.  When we slip into heartless watching, the abundance seems to vanish.  When we dare to show up and be fully present, grace and wonder and mystery start to appear, even in the midst of pain.  Not as planned dreams, or as images of lovers, or as scripts of success designed by our fantasies of ourselves.  But as oddly shaped pods of vitality bursting to multiply and bring us further into the mystery of living.”

 

Mark Nepo, The Exquisite Risk, pp. 237-8.

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