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Wednesday, December 24 2014

Merry Oneness

 

       “God is an infinite secret hiding in the open, waiting for each of us to slow enough to inhabit our aliveness through our bareness of being.  When we can do so, we become conduits of spirit that continually converge toward an ultimate unity.”   (Mark Nepo, Seven Thousand Ways to Listen, p. 81)

 

       Christmas speaks to us of oneness.  In the person and teaching of Jesus, the secret that hides in the open – that we cannot be separated from God or from each other - is revealed and celebrated.

 

       Relax.  Soften.  Let life live you.  Celebrate connection.  Celebrate oneness. 

 

       Merry Christmas!

 

 

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Monday, December 08 2014

Vulnerable and Safe 2

 

       This morning, as I was practicing what I wrote about yesterday, I wondered if it would help to write a bit more concretely about how we can stay present both with our feelings and with the ground of being.

 

       When I’m present to the world of feelings, I am in effect saying:  “Yep, I feel scared.  Yep, I feel angry.  Yep, I feel hurt, sad, embarrassed, ashamed, excited, nervous, jealous, joyful ….  Yep, I feel a yearning inside.  Yep, I’m waiting for the other shoe to drop.  Yep, I wish I didn’t have so much on my plate right now.”   My intention, here, is to acknowledge and accept whatever I’m experiencing.  It is what it is. 

 

       When uncomfortable feelings arise, my automatic response takes me right to my head – either to analyze and figure out the feeling so I can control it and make it go away or to dive into the swamp of thoughts and stories that bury me more deeply in the feeling, keeping me mired in it, preventing it’s natural movement through me. 

 

       When I’m more mindful, I move into my body and into my heart.  I breathe.  I hold my feeling self in that larger, heart-space inside – a space that’s not always easy to find.  For some of us, visualizing helps – imagining ourselves literally being held or being enveloped in the heart of the universe, or perhaps surrounded in light or cherished by a loving presence.  For me, there’s no clear image; rather, a felt sense of a vast, nameless, quiet energy field of compassion and kindness.  While I locate this field within me, I sense that it’s also around me and beyond me, yet not separate from me.  Over time and with practice, I’ve become more familiar with this quiet, inner spaciousness. 

 

       Meditation practices can connect us - both to our felt experience and to the larger ground of being in which experience happens.  Meditation helps us make room for the mystery that we are both the experiencer and the immense, loving witness of the experience.

 

       In mystery’s embrace, we find wholeness – our smallness and our vastness, our vulnerability and our safety.

 

       

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Saturday, December 06 2014

Vulnerable and Safe

 

 

      “One aspect of the endless practice is to feel both the depth of our feelings and, at the same time, to stand on the ground of all being which exits independent of what happens to us.  Often, we slip to one side of this:  either denying the impact of our feelings in order to stay grounded or we’re swept away by the strength of our feelings and lose the larger perspective.  Being fully awake comes from staying close to both, when we can.”  (Mark Nepo, The Endless Practice, p. 24)

 

       Psychology and spirituality come together as we hold this dual awareness.  We acknowledge our feelings – notice them in the body, name them, let go of the stories behind them as we stay present and breathe with the pure experience of feeling.  At the same time, we remember and open to an immense, compassionate and wise presence within us, tenderly holding us in love.  As we feel what we feel, breathe and allow ourselves to be held in this larger space, healing naturally occurs.  Wholeness happens.

 

       Fully human, fully alive, fully connected, we embrace our vulnerability and our safety.

 

 

 

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